Your answer is now loosing the track.......I have very clearly shared all the information's as per your requirements since the beginning of this post.
I am still not convinced with your suggestions and experiments so far what exactly causing the RAM over usage and server auto stopping.
Moreover for your information, yesterday I have pointed back all my sites A records back to the hostinger server and then after aaPanel RAM overusing is not happening......so now the question is aaPanel is really compatible to handle multiple sites and wordpress instances within single panel or not.